Longer life expectancies …. both a boon and a bane.
During our many community events, I got to know Mr B. In his early 70s, Mr B is the primary caregiver for his 98-year-old mother.
As I observed Mr. B at these events, I saw the immense responsibility and burden he carried. His mother needed him for everything. And, even in his old age, when he himself needed help, he had to care for his mother.
One of humanity’s greatest achievements — the gift of longer lives through advancements in medicine and living standards — is also a bane. The elderly, who once cared for us, now often live long enough to require intense, round-the-clock care themselves. And this care often falls to their children, who are themselves elderly.
Unfortunately, Mr B’s situation is increasingly becoming the norm instead of the exception. Mr B’s days are a blur of doctor’s appointments and medication schedules for his mother and himself. The physical and emotional demands are exhausting especially for someone of his age.
“Sometimes, I feel so helpless,” he said. “I want to be there for her, but some days, I don’t have the strength.”
Mr. B’s story is a wake up call that even as we celebrate life’s longevity, we must also be prepared to support each other through its inevitable trials. There are no simple solutions to this phenomenon that is (or will) plague nations around the world. Governments, healthcare providers, and communities will need to collaborate to develop robust policies and services that will alleviate the burden on elderly caregivers.
On our part, we can be the support system for people like Mr B …. reach out and lend a hand.
